How often do we find ourselves saying this? How often do we ask this to others?
We really don't know what to do. The complexity of our lives and all of our decisions and responsibilities are overwhelming. If someone has the right answer, please, tell me.
This question actually protects us. Implicit in the question is that we want to do something remarkable, we want to live a meaningful life, a life of purpose, but we don't really know how to do it so we ask the question. But asking the question actually shields us from the responsibility of the result, it shifts the fear and the possibility of failure onto the other person. If this doesn't work out, it is her fault not yours.
We all care about our life, how we live it and how we spend it. But caring is not enough. You need to take responsibility. Responsibility for your actions- your thoughts, words and deeds. You need to take responsibility for your health, your well being and your values.
First we need to care about our practice, then we need to carry the responsibility.
Oddly enough, then we might find ourselves asking, how do you do this? Why do you do this? What advantage does this have over that?
We become curious, active learners and experimenters. Little scientists with big dreams. Everything falls within our domain and we are always pioneering the next breakthrough.