It is not always clear why we should train our minds or how we should actually train in something like patience.
What does an impatient mind look like?
It is easily angered. It is irritated, annoyed.
It is averse- to the situation at hand and the people that we are dealing with.
It is in a hurry, uncomfortable and anxious.
If you enjoy the company of an impatient mind then there is no reason to train your mind. If you want to remove these fetters that bind your mind, then meditation is the simplest and most effective means to perfect the practice of patience.
In meditation, you learn to be patient with your body.
Our bodies are uncomfortable. We have a lot of aches and pains, a lot of tightness. So we learn to be patient with our bodies, to not react to what our body is presenting to us, and the discomfort falls away.
In meditation, you learn to be patient with your feelings.
We experience wave after wave of powerful and subtle feelings and emotions. We feel good, we feel bad, we feel happy and sad, anxious and calm, tired and on edge. So we learn to be patient with our feelings, to not react to what we are experiencing, and the discontent falls away.
In meditation, you learn to be patient with your mind.
We all have a monkey mind that can't sit still. There is a never-ending stream of drama and internal dialogue, a parade of memories and fears, our hopes and dreams, doubt and insecurity. So we learn to be patient with our mind, to not react to what our mind is presenting to us, and the discursiveness falls away.
In meditation, you learn to be patient with all that appears and exists.
We encounter all kinds of sights, sounds, smells, tastes and touch, all kinds of experiences beyond measure. So we learn to be patient with whatever appears and exists, to not react to what is presenting itself to us, and the dissatisfaction falls away.
As we work with these levels of developing patience, our practice culminates in fearless patience. A state of authentic presence where we are fully open and willing to participate with whatever is occurring- whether it be external to us or in our own heads.
Our mind becomes like a crystal clear mirror that perfectly reflects whatever is placed before it, whether it is good or bad, beautiful or ugly. There is no judgement, no aversion. No indifference nor avoidance.
It is a mind that is beyond fear and doubt. Time and time again you are able to show up, allowing us the opportunity to act with generosity, love and kindness even in the most unfortunate of circumstances.
That is the perfection of patience.