We are all familiar with love. We love our family and close friends. We would do anything to help them. We take joy in their success, we suffer in their pain and loss.
We don't often think of this love as conditional. If we were asked, we would most likely say that it is unconditional love.
We love them when they make mistakes, or lose their temper. We give them the benefit of the doubt. We cut them some slack. Regardless of the conditions, our love for them endures.
But this type of love is also really conditional love. They are those close to us, those in our inner circle. They are those that we rely heavily upon and who give us support and comfort. Those are the conditions of our unconditional love.
But what does unconditional love really look like?
It is never forsaking anyone from your heart.
It is a mind that never gives up hope, is willing to give them another chance. It is allowing mistakes and imperfections. Cutting people some slack, giving them the benefit of the doubt.
People are going to do bad things to us. They are going to deceive us, act out, cause us grief. But we never close the door. We never say we are done. It's never over.
Keep the door ajar. You don't need to invite them back in, let them come on their own terms. But keep the door ajar.
By not forsaking others, we give them a chance. We keep the aspiration that they find happiness and be free from suffering. We continue to show up, regardless of the conditions.