Where do you turn when you're scared? When you're tired and you had a bad day? When you are feeling overwhelmed?
Do you find yourself scrambling, desperate to find another safe haven? Do you fall back into old thought patterns and neurosis? Pour another glass, go to bed?
When things get tough, where do you turn for refuge?
You have to go to refuge. It's an action, not a belief. You need to actually go, actually do the practice.
Most of the time when we feel hopeless or encounter our demons, rather than having certainty in our refuge we turn and run, often looking for another safe haven or someone else to work their magic. We start grasping at straws, hoping anything will work.
And the wheel turns.