Is this situation too intense, or are your emotions too intense?
Is this problem too difficult, or is your aversion too difficult to deal with?
Is this conflict too volatile, or is your anger out of control?
Is this challenge too hard, or is the story your telling yourself about it too hard?
Is this too scary, or is your fear too real?
What is outer, what is inner? What is in the environment, what is in your mind?
What can you try to change?
How do you bring about that change?
Can you do that?
What additional resources and skills do you need?
Go get them.