Usually we try to meet challenges with aggression. We get ourselves worked up, we really fight and give it our all. We meet intense situations with more intensity.
Aggression is the bold face. What lies beneath all of that aggression is aversion. We fear losing, or losing control. We don't back down because we would then feel vulnerable. We keep pushing, because at least we can say we kept pushing.
Our culture loves the aggressive model of meeting challenges. It is celebrated and often bears the intended fruit. But aggression is also exhausting and it doesn't always leave us feeling satisfied inside.
Is aggression the only way?
Imagine instead of pushing back against challenges, we let them in, were patient with them, and then shared generously.
Imagine instead of getting worked up and fighting, we witnessed the situation and then acted with kindness.
Imagine instead of intensifying our activity, we moved with deliberate gentleness.
The ability to witness, understand and listen is the hallmark of accepting situations as they arise. The ability to then stand up, speak and act is the hallmark of sharing your gifts.
Overwhelm challenges with love.
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