We have all been hurt in the past. We have been wronged, disrespected, mistreated. Some of us have experienced small slights, some offenses have been traumatic and left wounds that are still open.
When do we let that pain go? Does holding onto it serve us in any way that is beneficial?
Holding onto it continues to fuel the fire. We relive it. We talk ourselves through it and try to imagine how it could have changed or been different. It is our wound, and we are holding onto it.
When do we let it go?
Not let it go and pretend it didn't happen. When do we let go of what we think life would be like without the wound. When do we let go of the fantasy that the wound will stop impacting our life.
You have a wound. We all have our wounds. They are tender, raw, and vulnerable. We can sit with that. We can work with that. That is work worth doing.
We spend so much time trying to cover up our wounds, hide them from the world and pretend like they don't exist. But they do exist, in all of us. They make us human. They provide an opportunity for us to look into our own suffering and connect with the suffering of others.
When we are truly open to having our wounds be exposed, then we realize the impact of harming another living being. Then we can start to commit to doing no harm.